I know you probably have heard the phrase, “crabs in a bucket.” Not sure if you have actually seen this happen. When you put a crab in a bucket it can claw it’s way out of the bucket, as long as there is no lid on it. Add in another crab and watch what happens. Total chaos and destruction of each other.
This phrase is used in society by showing the parrellel of human nature to hold others back. This happens when someone does not want you to succeed in your journey. The problem that you are missing is it’s not you. This “crabby” mentality is their insecurities within themselves. It may be envy, jeoulus, negativity, or the fear of letting you go.
People can be like this too. What type of people do you surround yourself with? People who lift you up, support and hold you accountable or people who pull you down.
Find yourself an accountability partner and support each other. I am thankful I have Kenny. We balance each other. Plus, with our beliefs of God we are even stronger- We are 3. Ecclesiastes 4: 12 And though one may be overpowered, two can resist. Moreover, a cord of three strands is not quickly broken
If you are surrounded by people who are negative minded, angry and complain all the time, this too can pull you down. It’s not always a physical pull that can lead you to falling. It is words. It is even your own thoughts that can create the doubt in yourself.
You must surround yourself with people who lift you up. You must have faith and line your words up with God’s word. Pastor Trey preached an amazing sermon of winning words versus wishing words yesterday. I don’t want to steal his sermon, but it fit so well with the topic I was writing on, prior to church. God is lining up my plans. I cannot see the big picture, but I believe and have faith in my God that this writing is meant to be.
If you start telling yourself, “I can’t do this.” “I’m a failure.” “You’e not worth the promotion.” “I’m not really a writer.” This mentality is pulling you down. The doubt creeps up and you must squish it. Don’t wallow in it and let your negative thoughts or people’s opinion play ping pong in your head. “Doubt the doubt”, per Trey Dowdy.
You must stay consistent with your words. You must stay consistent with your goals. You must allow God to work in your life, even during times of trials; you keep the faith. To have faith is to be sure of the things we hope for, to be certain of the things we cannot see. Hebrew 11:1
When you do surround yourself with positive people, positive thoughts and the word of God, no one can pull you down. No one can destroy your joy. You are driven by faith. Ecclesiastes 4:11 For if one falls, his companion can lift him up; but pity the one who falls without another to help him up! Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him. Proverbs 30:5
If we would act out of love and kindness, we would see how we can lift others up. This includes yourself. It is written to love one another, do not seek revenge or hold grudges. We are to pray for those who are against us and love your enemy. (John 13:34, Leviticus 19:18, Matthew 5:44)
Just think the one person you lift up, may be the person looking back and giving you that hand you needed to pull yourself out of the bucket.