Have you ever made up your mind to start eating healthier, stop smoking, start working out, give up the sodas, etc. Well I have battled with yo-yo dieting most of my adult life. I have tried every diet you could think of. What made me stop and go back to unhealthy eating. Stress was a big one. Also, at one time I thought oh I lost the weight I know what to do. I don’t have to log my food. I can have those cookies and wine today. Then slowly I was back to not being intentional with my eating habits. It was the same with smoking. I will have just one when we went out for a social drink. That soon led to buying a pack of cigarettes and within a month I was smoking daily.
I had every excuse in the book and I had convinced myself I will start next week to improve my unhealthy habits. Going through the FASTer Way To Fat Loss® my thought process changed to progress not perfection. It also helped that I had become an ACE Certified Health Coach© and learned alot of behavioral changes and how we go through the different stages of change.
Progress over perfection. I did not realize I was a perfectionist type thinker and doer. I am creative and can go with the flow, but when it came to my perception of who I am it was distorted. I had this ideal image of who I thought I should be. I only eat healthy food. I am on the diet wagon. I need to be able to wear a certain size to be accepted and loved. This thought process was destructive. I had to start understanding my emotions of why I was allowing that thought to think sweets will fix that craving or the stressful situation.
Changing this pattern of reaching for a sweet treat during a time of stress or uncertainty was just like reaching for that cigarette to “calm my nerves”. It was the feeling of defeat every time I had to start over. That feeling of weakness that soon led to a downward spiral of eating whatever. Understanding I am not perfect, understanding this sweet treat will not fix the problem at hand, owning my emotions. Giving up the excuses of I don’t have time to deal with this matter. Letting go of the perfect thinking. Giving myself grace for the imperfect food choices. Learning how to allow myself the piece of cake or chips and cheese dip on leg day without the guilt. Knowing that the next day I would be back on my schedule of healthy eating, intermittent fasting and carb cycling.
I am still a work in progress of forgiving my self. My mind is clearer and no longer grasping for excuses of I don’t have time to plan my meals, that it cost too much money to eat healthy, I can’t workout because I’m not in shape, or I am too busy. All these excuses and negative thinking does not burn calories. It only creates more turmoil in your mind of wishing you are something you are not. You are worth the time it takes to plan a meal, go shop for healthy food bargains, walk into that fitness center and start where you are in your fitness journey. You are strong, you birthed 3 children who are now adults, you are athletic and full of life. You are loving, beautiful and have lots to say. DO NOT be afraid.
This thinking of who you want be is sometimes held down out of fear. You should not have to convince yourself that you have to be like others to fit in. It is ok to different and accept who you are. The love of God and the faith I have in Him helps me concrete this into my way of thinking and destroys those excuses. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalms 139:14. Let those excuse go and be strong and courageous and do not fear… for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. Deuteronomy 31:6. Learning to love yourself and the relationships you have with others helps you build compassion, acceptance, forgiveness and selflessness. This positive thinking and mindset will conquer your fear and excuses that hold you back.
If you want to learn intentional living and improving your mindset to improve your health I would be honored to be your health coach and help you squish those excuses and practice self grace and progress towards a healthier you. Join me in my next FASTer Way To Fat Loss® round February 25th, 2019. Link: https://www.fasterwaycoach.com/#Cherylmoffett
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