When I was asked to write a note and send a family picture, I didn’t realize I do not have a recent family picture. Kenny and I scrolled our phones looking. We have holiday pictures, wedding pictures, special event pictures, but 1 kid is always missing. That’s the pain point of having your kids become adults, they now have jobs and responsibilities.
I found these pictures of all us in a different mask or costume and this idea started forming, so bear with me.
When Kenny and I first met 27 years ago we were two different people. We grew closer through the struggles, the joy, and life’s events; with our love for each other and the third cord that keeps you strong – God’s love.
A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12
Loving each other through the changes of life is sort of like taking off masks and unveiling the person you have become. When seeking God first in your marriage and allowing your love to grow and change through the years you will remain steadfast to each other and God’s plan for the many years ahead of you.
For the Lord is the Spirit, and wherever the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the Lord—who is the Spirit—makes us more and more like him as we are changed into his glorious image 2 Corinthians 3:17-18
Looking back through the pictures I started to see how we all have changed. My mask of trying to be the best mom, wife, friend, nurse and now health coach is shown through the many pictures I was seeing.
Understanding I am not perfect, and yes, I cannot please everyone has been a mindset change I have been working on. In the words perfect I do not mean-I am perfect or better than you. It is a negative mindset of how I thought others viewed me. If I could only wear this size clothing, if I could eat perfectly on my diet, if I could keep up with the housework, laundry, meals and the list goes on.
It is an image that I kept falling short on. Over the last year letting go of the “control” I thought I had on my life has been challenging and rewarding. Seeing my grown children step outside into the world and take flight into the adult world was the most difficult. I have had to let them live with the choices they made or will be making. I have had to let them make their own mistakes and victories.
The mom, wife, friend, coach and nurse mask will always be on. It is who I am. It is an unconditional love for my children and husband. It is the love, passion and joy I have being your friend, coach or nurse.
Hiding behind the mask of put the smile on, everything is fine, the thinking of I can fix this is becoming more authentic and real. Allowing the inside feelings to match my outside appearance is finally meshing.
I continue this year working on the feelings that come with the “people pleaser” or “fixer” personality.
I am a child of God, who has a purpose to share His word, give you encouragement to improve your health, your life, and to just be your friend or coach. This mask too I will continue to wear.
I will continue my health and wellness journey in the FASTer Way To Fat Loss as an active client and health coach. The mindset journey of removing the mask I was hiding behind and letting go of the “all or nothing”or “perfect” choices I thought I had to make to be successful, has been my most rewarding part of the program. Learning progress over perfection, self-grace and self-love is like the sprinkles on the doughnut, the extras you get on top of the improved health and fat loss.